Archive for the ‘Nerves’ Category

For Fear of Forgetting… what can you do if you forget your presentation?

February 17, 2012


Comedians write on their hands…

When you stand up to speak at a seminar, conference or even at a team meeting, do you ever worry that you’re going to forget what to say? That’s not surprising – it’s a key concern that most people have and often cited as a common side effect of nerves.

Unfortunately, the way in which most people find their way around this problem, ends up working against them… PowerPoint. Yes, most people type out their script, using PowerPoint as an auto-cue, and then proceed to read it to their audience.  Let me tell you… audiences hate being read to. You should avoid this approach.

So, the problem remains – how do you ensure you won’t forget the content of your talk? Over the next couple of blog posts I’ll be sharing with you some of the strategies that great speakers use in order to solve this little conundrum.

The obvious answer is to learn your material. Rehearse it over and over again.  Not just in your head, but, out loud. We learn things “parrot fashion” and the act of constant repetition definitely helps.

But even then, nerves alone can make you “go blank.”  It can happen to anyone. You just need to find a way out of the problem should that happen!

Frank Dick OBE

I once had the privilege of working with Frank Dick OBE – the former British Athletics Federation’s Director of Coaching. Frank is much in demand and is a brilliant motivational speaker. Travelling with him between venues I said, “Goodness, you have a fantastic memory. You never forget your material.” He replied, “I often forget my material! When I do, I make out that I’ve just thought of something funny – I stop and I tell a little joke (I have loads I keep up my sleeve) and as I’m telling it I wander back to my notes. As the audience laugh at the punch line I sneak a peek at my notes and… I’m off again.”

So, have your notes to hand. Notes you can call on should you lose your place, or forget your lines. Best not to have these written on your hand (a trick adopted by many a stand-up comedian) as they are evident to the audience and don’t look terribly professional.

If you are speaking from a lectern you can have an A4 pad before you, but personally  I like to use index cards. Viewed side on they are quite unobtrusive and they fit nicely inside a pocket.  The secret though, whatever you choose, is to write just key words as notes. Use only a few key words to keep you on track.  If you write out your script in full the temptation will be to read it. To connect with your audience you need to maintain eye-contact– reading does not help! If you do “go blank” you need to find your place quickly. You do not want to read through an essay in order to get back on track. Keep your notes short.

Index Cards best for notes

I keep my notes in my inside jacket pocket. If I lose my place I’ll sometimes admit it (we are all human – it’s going to happen every now and then.)  I’ll say, “Ladies and Gentlemen… do you ever get half way through a sentence and completely forget what you’re going to say next? Well it’s just happened to me now! I haven’t a clue what comes next… just bear with me…” I calmly take out my notes slowly look through them till I’ve found my place say, “Ah, yes of course…” and simply continue. Most people don’t even register what happened.

In my next blog post I’ll be sharing with you a memory technique that I use for learning things quickly. I serves me really well, not only when I’m out and about delivering keynote talks but also if I find myself without paper and pen but I need to remember what I’ve just heard or even thought.

In the meantime If you have some tips or tricks for keeping your presentation on track please share them here – I’d love to hear them.

Nervous or “In the Zone”?

November 16, 2010

Over the last couple of days I have seen a lot of novice speakers at a couple of events. A number of them have been evidently nervous, bless ’em. It’s always alarming to be in the audience when a speaker would clearly rather be anywhere else! It’s likely that you’ll relate to this, whether you give talks or not, as BUPA suggests that over 90% of the British public suffers with glossophobia: the fear of public speaking. For many it’s a fear that they’re going to make complete fools of themselves,after all, nobody wants their audience to think less of them. They’d rather the Grim Reaper would come and take them away  (fear of death is only the UK’s number three fear!)

On our High Impact Presentation Skills training course we ask our delegates to make a list of what happens to their body when they stand up to present and the list invariably contains (but is not always limited to) the following:

Nervous speaker

Nervous?

  • shake
  • sweat
  • blush
  • butterflies
  • heart pounding
  • mind goes blank
  • feel faint
  • feel sick
  • stomach churns
  • knees knock
  • time slows down
  • time speeds up
  • mouth goes dry
  • ramble
  • fidget
  • need the loo

Even seasoned performers describe some of these feelings. Ian Holm famously gave up stage acting for a while, such were his nerves. So, if most people experience nerves, why don’t most speakers appear nervous? Well, it’s because they’ve found ways of hiding the signs of nerves. In actual fact many of the signals are internal (butterflies in the stomach, a feeling of nausea) and therefore just aren’t visible anyway.

Here are some of our Top Tips for dealing with signs of nerves:

Shakes – Copy your notes on to index cards rather than using A4 sheets of paper which can magnify and indeed amplify the shaking. Grip the cards and brace your elbows against your sides. If you make just a few notes by annotating the cards with Key Words only – NOT your full script, you’ll be tempted to read it verbatim – should your mind go blank you’ll have something to refer to and get back on track.

Blushing – is more of a problem for women speakers rather than it is for the gents (your skin is thinner – that’s all.) Exposed flesh blushes (so cover up as much as you feel comfortable covering. We occasionally get a lady speaker who will say “my chest goes red and blotchy when I stand up to speak.” “Well, cover it up, then, madam.” We reply.” One way of covering up is to use a green tinted foundation. (Seriously.) There are a number of make-up solutions that can counter the red blotching associated with nerves. Boots No 17 Colour Corrective Fluid is just one.

Time slowing down or speeding up – are sensations caused by adrenaline coursing through your body. As long as you have rehearsed, rehearsed and rehearsed, you’ll know how long your talk lasts. Providing you stay on track (stops you rambling) you shouldn’t add too much to this (if you finish a little early – no one will mind!) Try to catch sight of a clock in the room or take off your wristwatch and lay it before you – for reference.

Fidgeting – remove all temptations – jewellery etc.

Mouth dries up – this is a real problem for many speakers and the most commonly used solution – having a drink of water is not at all effective! The problem is that if you start sipping water, it washes away any saliva (which is what you need to keep your mouth lubricated!) If you watch speakers who drink water you’ll notice that they have to continue doing so throughout their talk. There’s another problem – you have something to knock over! By far and away the most effective solution is to BITE THE SIDE OF YOUR TONGUE. Not so hard as to draw blood – just a little nip. Before you know it you’ll have more saliva flowing and that’s what you need.

 

 

 

 

 

In the Zone

 

Needing the loo – another reason why drinking water is not always a good idea. Go before you start. Then XYZ! EXamine Your Zip. If you go out with your flies undone (or your skirt tucked into your knickers, for that matter) the audience will be mightily distracted.

As for the other things on the list, well the audience cannot see them – no matter how peculiar they feel.

Asked whether or not he suffered from nerves, Bruce Springsteen denied that he ever did. He added that before he could perform, however, he had to be “in the zone.” Asked what that felt like, he replied, “My heart beats faster, my stomach churns and my hands shake.” Nerves can be a good thing. They are a healthy sign that you care about how you and your presentation come across.

Knowing that you have a well structured, well rehearsed talk that research tells you is what your audience wants to hear is a great confidence booster that means your nerves can be held in check.